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Friday, October 16th, 2009 at 10:33 PM by Ruth Tynes / Online Editor / InTheTimes.com

InTheTimes.com In the Times Fun Channel Q: Question Do we spend too much time together My parents said that I spend too much time with my boyfriend. They said that they understand that we like each other and are getting to know each other better, but that they are concerned that I am not spending time doing other things that I like and hanging out with my other friends. They said they are afraid that I am loosing my sense of self ... Any advice?

Q: My parents said that I spend too much time with my boyfriend. They said that they understand that we like each other and are getting to know each other better, but that they are concerned that I am not spending time doing other things that I like and hanging out with my other friends. They said they are afraid that I am "loosing my sense of self "... Any advice?

A: You are very blessed to have parents that care about you forming your own identity as a young woman! Ephesians 6:1-3 reminds us, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right." "Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise--"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." " (NIV)

Yes, it is important for you and your boyfriend to spend time getting to know each other. However, you both should still be able to live your own individual lifestyles and pursue your own unique interests without the other one always having to be there.

Start including your family and other friends in your 'getting to know you activities'. You might want to have a BBQ one Saturday afternoon with both of your families and friends! Incorporate 'icebreakers' into the afternoon that will allow everyone to get to know each other better!

If your boyfriend is serious about building a loving relationship with you, he will be more than interested in getting to know the other people (family and friends) that are important in your life too. Yes, he will be nervous about meeting them (that's natural!) but his passion for learning to love them as you do will win out! Never settle for the excuse that he is 'too nervous' to meet your family and friends!

Including your family and friends will also add an extra level of accountability in your relationship—which is very important! After spending time with you and your boyfriend, if your family and friends approach you with concerns about your relationship, don't get upset, "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they
succeed
" (Proverbs 15:22, NIV)

Respect their love and concern for your wellbeing (and that of your boyfriend), talk to God about it, run their advice through His Word—the Bible, and if it lines up with God's best plan for your life, go from there! Be brave and always remember that you are very blessed to have a family that loves you (not everyone does)!

Great question!
RUTH

InTheTimes.com In the Times Devotional Devo Diary Series So This Is Love by Ruth Tynes

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